Abscence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder
On a much better note, K called twice yesterday . I just miss him even more now. The day before, we talked all afternoon and thank God for the existance of live video msgin since we won't be able to see each other for another 2 months. BUT, we're going to make up for it. The plan is to meet in November for a week in New York and in December for 10 days very far away so we can spend New Year's together. Let's just hope that it works out... it's kinda hard when there's actually an OCEAN separating us.I found this very interesting article on Sunjournal.com
Leslie Karsner, the author of "The Long Distance Romance Guide," and Dr. Guldner feel that long distance love offers benefits such as improved communication, not taking each other for granted and increased independence and individuality. However, they both offer tips to help couples keep the relationship strong, even across hundreds of miles:
1. Ensure clear and frequent communication. It's important to keep touching base and tickling fancies with gifts and chat. When you can't rely on seeing facial gestures and body language, you must communicate more effectively.
2. Stay optimistic. Long distance relationships can and do work.
3. Have a support system. Surround yourself with friends and family who are willing to listen and support you in your extra efforts.
4. Have a life of your own. Don't just keep busy, really accomplish things that matter to you. Don't spend your time pining -- stay active with physical and social diversions.
5. Avoid avoidance. Agree to talk about tough issues during your next visit.
6. Don't expect perfection. Couples in long distance relationships sometimes measure the success of their relationship by the perceived quality of the most recent time spent together. If the weekend was a disappointment then the relationship is in trouble. Simply realizing that there will be some disappointing times together -- and that this is normal -- will help with those less than glorious weekends.
7. Find less expensive alternatives to stay in touch. E-mail and letters are great ways to keep the flame alive. Newer technology, such as phone calls over the Internet, also provides low cost ways to hear that special someone's voice. For the month of February, voiceglo is offering free Internet phone calls to its subscribers -- all you and your partner need to do is sign up for the service and download the software.
Although it may be hard at times, it's often worth holding on to those long distance relationships. Just remember to be creative and keep the lines of communication open!
posted by LUX @ 9/09/2006 01:10:00 PM
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